Vince Grace
Love Is Natural
Out of all the emotions human beings have, I think we struggle with this one the most and there is good reason. As fear is the emotion embedded within us in this bodily state, love is our natural state within consciousness. The separation (let’s call it for description) from the awareness of our true state of consciousness creates the sensation of something missing that is felt and longed for our entire life. The combination of the the two creates the search for love and the fear of not being loved or loneliness.
I was involved with this search for love. It did not take long for me to ask myself about love. How can love be something that I seriously need or long for, yet it seems that love is completely dependent on an outside or external object, person, desire, pleasure, comfort or a moment in time? The question would suggest that I would not be in control of my own love or love feelings. This was followed by many other questions. How can such a thing as clean as love be used to satisfy a fear of loneliness? If I did not need or desire love, would all these searches for external comfort and fear of loneliness cease to exist or at least become unnecessary?
Fear of not being loved extends into fear of loneliness. Even though we exist on a planet full of people that we interact with everyday, the mind creates the illusion of loneliness. Within this illusion of loneliness we search for someone to love and for someone to love us. We may even turn to pets for this.
So I came to a strange conclusion, I was not talking about love and I was not understanding what love is. What I was describing was an aid to cover up my own desires, fear or sensation of loneliness and discomforts. I recognized it as a selfish activity which means it cannot be love that I was lacking. I was using love (as defined here) as an excuse for all my activities of searching out my desires and pleasures and relieving me of my discomforts and/or fears of loneliness. In reality, this was the pursuit of ego with a made up unnatural love. It basically depended on an attachment or an addictive attachment or an addiction to something or all of these at once.
I have seen many of us claim we love when we are attached or addicted to someone or something. Then, when that someone or something is removed, we turn to fear and anger, which at times consumes our ability to think rationally. This fear and anger was only masked through the attachment or addiction revealing our current and true state. We become anything but love.
These things mentioned above would be for love on the receiving end. This added the question, what about giving love or to be loving to others? Is being nice to others a loving gesture? It can be, but I also noticed I can be using this purposely as an activity to have others like me, to look good to others or gain some sort of credit.
I have noticed in one particular family that is close to me, that they show love to one child out of their two children. The other child is rejected by them. Which child out of the two is receiving a deceitful presentation of love? Misery is misery. We cannot create love or happiness from misery. Just as we cannot create loving from unloving and we cannot create unloving from loving. If I did, it would be a strategic ego mind game executed within a presentation for the appearance of love and for the purpose of deceit. Put simply, I want something and wanting something has nothing to do with love. We cannot contain hate or misery and love within the same place. When presenting myself like this, I would actually be revealing my true state of suffering with misery, hate, anger or fear.
The Approach
It is simple, if I am misery, I will be misery. If I am love, I will be love. I cannot be both simultaneously. I can present myself as one or the other, but one will be an act. We are under the illusion that we turn emotions on and off. This is simply not true. Just as I cannot turn off the sun, I cannot turn off fear. This can be proven to ourselves very easily. When presenting ourselves as love, usually a hair trigger can set us off and return us to anger because love is not actually our state. Imagine it being the other way around. Imagine if every hair trigger set off love within us. That would be interesting to see. It does not happen this way. These triggers usually release anger, fear or hate. What does that tell us? So we call ourselves loving, and say its not our fault there are all these triggers that make us angry, fearful or unloving. These triggers reveal our actual state. These triggers do not reveal a love condition, which from the beginning, would not be affected by triggers. Love is a state of being, not a moment in time. So is fear and anger.
Anything in between is just a performance with one catch being it would seem that we do not need to fake anger.
Continued in Part 2
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